One thing I'm curious about…
90% of all female Internet dating profiles proudly proclaim "sarcasm" as a positive trait.
I don't have a problem with that, but it doesn't seem like something that would appeal to most guys — even my female friends say the same.
Why so quick to proclaim it?
sarcasm detector ? – where? I can’t detect it at all.
- and like you, I reckon most blokes will be imagining that the woman is going to spend the first date dreaming up sarky things to say…about him. – real turn off IMO.
Positive trait for themselves, or as something they’re looking for?
Sarcasm is pretty useful on a first date if used correctly. It’s a good way to gauge someone’s ego and sense of humor about themselves and the situation, and it’s also a good way to avoid a conversation topic that goes out of bounds. You pretty much have to be smarter and quicker than average to be good at sarcasm, so it’s a good gauge of that too.
Whether someone who believes themselves to be sarcastic is ok with being on the receiving end is another matter.
For themselves. It’s usually one of the top five self descriptors. Which implies they think it will be desirable to guys.
And as I said, I don’t find it a turn-off — being half-English, I’m VERY used to it in the family — but I’m not sure most guys would agree.
I was very sarcastic back in high school, and hardly anybody ever got it — they always took me way too seriously.
I can only speak for myself that when I use sarcasm — usually light — in meeting women, and they laugh from it, it usually breaks the awkwardness. In my experience, it shows to them that I pretty much real and from my end, I can tell they can either take the joke or is smart enough to understand the perspective or undertones of the sarcasm.
But, when it flies over their heads, I usually stop…and probably move on.
Meh. Some people are funny sarcastic, but bitter/sarcastic people are just annoying. I’d say it’s very hit or miss as a positive trait.
I guess you’re just dealing with the Dahria generation…